NICE is Power

Are you a nice person?  I am.  Been told at times to nice. According to La La Anthony’s book, The Power Playbook, being nice leads to power.

I have tried not to be “so” nice.  I put on my tough face.  I try to be a silent powerful force.ANGRY FACE I encourage myself to not say “Good Morning”.  It only lasts 10 minutes before smiles and “can I help with that” bubbles out of me. Reading La La’s book made me realize it’s ok to be nice.  Nice leads to power in your life.  She made me realize that my being nice is actually my gift.

Nice is POWER

Being nice has given me the power to take care of my family.  It enables me to continue to grow my eBay business.  Being nice enabled me this past year to make a career change in a down economy so that I can provide my family with much needed medical benefits. Have you figured out that I work a ton?  I do but you would never know it because I am nice!  (I only whine to a few select friends!) Being nice got me the job and continues to grow my online business.  Being nice makes me happy.  Being nice allows me to continue to reach for the stars.

Life Can Steal Nice

No matter how tired I am.  No matter how sad I am.  No matter if I just got bad news, I am a nice person.  I have to admit menopause is testing my nice behavior.  But for the HAPPYmost part I do not let my moods control the nice person that I am.  Now I must fess up.  I am one of those people who when stress hits I fall into my work and work makes me happy.  Thus it may be easier for me to be nicer than the average person cause I work so darn much!

Not Everyone Likes Nice

Those of you who have read my past post you know that I am trying to find a sense of who I am now that I am in my 40’s.  After reading about nice in La La’s book, I am happy to find that my being nice is power.  Reflection has also made me realize the following:

  • I allow not so nice people to crush me.  It’s hard for me to understand such unhappiness.  I have lived a hard life and I am nice.  How can they not be nice when I am?  I find myself avoiding not so nice people.
    • I plan to not judge and not let others attitudes affect me.
  • I have found myself trying to force my nice nature on others.
    • I plan to be nice and approachable as always but not go overboard on the non-receptive.  Let’s face it.  Not everyone likes nice.  It can be annoying to some so I need to respect that.  I will still be nice but give them space.
  • I am not going to apologize for being nice.  Being nice is just who I am.  It is a gift.  I see now how many opportunities I have been given in life just from being nice.

Nice or Not so Nice

If you are nice, realize it leads to power in life.  Don’t try to change who you are.  If you are not overly nice it’s not to late to be nicer.  Remember Nice leads to Power.  Figure out why you are not nice.  Are there changes you need to make in your life?  Manage your moods and keep them out of the work place.  Make an effort to be nice.  Take baby steps and you will be surprised by the outcome.  SMILE

Take care,

Lyn

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Self Doubt to Confidence

For me being in my 40’s has had a positive effect.  For the first time in my life I feel comfortable in my own skin.  It makes me wonder what was I missing in my teens, 20’s and 30’s?

I have come to a realization lately that my level of comfort was only due to a safe safeenvironment I crafted for myself.  Self doubt never had a chance to creep back into my life.  My career and friends were hand selected to ensure safety and success.  Anyone or anything that altered those positive feelings were avoided.  What I was missing in my 20’s and 30’s was never actually found.

My realization has come about due to a career change, my children growing up and lovely menopause.  I feel blessed to have this sudden revelation.  I had a false confidence of me but plan to develop a real sense of who I am.  As I work on me I hope to strengthen my relationships with my family and friends.  And maybe I will even allow some new relationships to enter my life!

My first step is to read and listen to some great books for real life tips.  I am actually juggling two books now.  You are a  BADASS you are a badassby Jen Sincero and The Power Playbook by La La The power playbookAnthony.  The Badass book I am reading by hard copy.  The Power Playbook I am listening to in audio on my way to work and while I grow my eBay business in the evenings and weekends.

My next step is to share how I evolve.  They say “sharing is caring.”  Sharing my own grown each Sunday may create a difference for someone in similar shoes.   So if you are an eBay customer who follows my online clothing store or if you have just stumbled on this article I hope you enjoy and grow with me.

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Buying eBay clothes can pay off a car loan!

I am always astonished when I go on clothing shopping trips with family or friends.

mouth drop openThe cost of clothing is crazy expensive!  I have witnessed friends spend over $100 for just three items, if they are lucky.   When they pull out that credit card, yes my mouth drops open and I instantly wish they would adopt me.

 

Sometimes I wonder if I could ever pay full price for clothing.  Would I, say if I won the lottery go on a shopping spree and reenact the scene from my favorite movie, Pretty Woman?  (For those of you to young to know the movie, you need to rent it today!)  big mistake

But the answer to that question is no, I really don’t think so.  I am a second hand girl at heart, who loves to find a deal.  This is why I love finding a good deal on clothing;

  • I love estimating my savings and applying them to my car loan to pay it off quicker.
  • I love always having something new to wear.
  • I love the feeling when I ruin a top that I don’t feel like $40 just went down the drain!
  • I love it when I am constantly stopped and complimented on my clothing!  As a side note, I have not mastered how to take a compliment!  I should just say thank you but I always have to brag about how much I paid for the outfit!
  • I love that clothing is my least expensive home bill!

So now that I have convinced you to check out second hand here are some places you can find good deals:

  • eBay – online store owners – These small business owners invest monthly store fees to run and manage their store.  They are serious sellers and invest a great deal of time to find you the deals.  Remember, when you shop eBay you save GAS MONEY and you save TIME.  And we all know, time is money!
  • Second hand boutiques – In my area I love Gerri’s Closet in Green, Ohio and Twice is Nice in Hartville, Ohio. These boutiques are super cute and have a lovely, trendy environment.
  • Goodwill – Involves some hunting and an investment of time.

About eBay

I am one of those eBay store owners.  Designer Name Brand Goods and More  I dedicate my Saturdays and Sundays to finding “like new” clothing.  Myself, husband and daughter work through the week to post these items in our eBay store.  Talk about “family time”!  I have been selling on eBay since 2003 and have loved every moment!

I hope this article was a fun and quick read.  Check out second hand and think about applying those savings to a large bill such as a car loan.  If back to school is tough on the budget start looking now for clothing on eBay for those little ones.  They will never know unless you tell them!

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JOB HUNTING

Lately, I seem to be surrounded by individuals trying to find jobs.  Young and old.  I realized even though there is a difference in age, there is a common theme among both age groups. Negativity and despair which lead to poor body language and lack luster speech.  All qualities that are sure to NOT land a job.

Head Trash

head trash

When trying to find a job there is no room for negativity and despair wandering around in your head.  Lets just call it what it is, head trash. Head trash that if not taken control of will take over and become reality.  For example my young friend told me the other day … “I am too young, they will never want to hire me.”  Well my first thought listening to this head trash was, oh honey you are so right.  I personally would never want to hire someone who does not believe in themselves.

Negativity & Despair negativity

It is so easy to let the negativity and despair capture our minds.  We have bills to pay. People counting on us.  Dreams to achieve.  I could go on and on.  But when looking for a job you need to turn your mind into a steel trap.  Do not let negativity and despair in.  If they creep in, set up a separate room for them in your head, shove them in and shut the door.  Being aware is the first step to stopping negativity and despair.

Poor Body Language & Speechbody language

If you are letting negativity & despair rule your job search most likely it has snatched your body and speech.  You may not realize it but this head trash will slow you down. The way you walk, your actions and your speech become negative.  You may feel that you are hiding these thoughts but let me tell you right now … you can not hide negativity and despair.  It is seen by all. Everyone who counts in your job search sees it.  Friends, family, acquaintances, the recruiter who calls up up on the phone to ask you a few questions, the human resource manager interviewing you.  Shall I go on?  Do you get my point?  Everyone you come in contact with can hear your negativity & despair and see your negativity & despair.  Who wants to hire that?  Who wants to work with that?  Who wants to recommend that?  Not me.  People are put off by another persons negativity & despair and will avoid it at all costs.  They may tolerate it for a short time but if you can not eventually control it that friend will take that shoulder they lent you and walk away.

Remember everyone you come in contact with can potentially help you find a job…even family members.  No one wants to help someone who is consumed by head trash.

What do I know?new job

What do I know about this?  How can I give advise?  Well I know despair & negativity very well.  I was raised by it and can recognize it in a heart beat.  Also I have worked in the staffing field. I have heard all the excuses you can think of for why a job can’t be found.  I myself have had to find jobs when all seemed to be lost.  Every job I have landed has been from my positive attitude, often times beating out a more qualified individual because of my positive attitude.

Now I am not perfect.  Yes, negativity and despair gets me every now and then. Sometimes it gets me for a few weeks before I notice.  But I am aware.  I can catch myself and shove that negativity and despair out of my thoughts.  Here are some tips that I use.

  • It may sound silly but the written word works wonders.  Write I can statements.
    • I can find a job.
    • I am young and fresh and will add life to the company  that hires me.
    • I am older but experienced, and can increase profits for a company.
  • Mend those negative bridges you created
    • If you have been negative make a point tell everyone you have a new attitude.
    • Keep in mind if you do not have this new attitude they will see that.
    • Keep in mind if you do have a new attitude they will see it and keep watching and then most likely be more open to helping you, recommending you and etc.
  • Make finding a job a full time job.
    • Full time + over time, Monday – Sunday
    • Research job finding tips
    • Find a friend who can serve as a job coach.  This job coach will become your boss.  Report to them weekly.  Give them reports on who you sent resumes to.  Discuss interviews you went on.  Have them do a mock interview with you, focusing on questions you found difficult to answer in real interviews.
  • Treat yourself.
    • Set high goals and if you meet them treat yourself.  For example I would force myself to send out so many resumes in a week and if I achieved that goal I earned a bag of salt and vinegar potato chips from the grocery store!

Conclusion

Remember negativity and despair which lead to poor body language and lack luster speech are  All qualities that are sure to NOT land you a job.  Use my tips and most importantly be aware and you will find that job.

Written by Lyn, lynowner of Designer Name Brand Goods eBay store.  Career and casual clothing at rock bottom prices that can help you land that job!